I once
heard of a child psychiatrist who started his practice with four theories and
no children. Ten years later, he had
four children and no theories. I have
four children and only one theory – Everyone is different.
It is
no secret that my passion for writing the Wil Clarey series comes out of my
love for my son Nathan. He is on the
Autism Spectrum or what I prefer to call HFA (High Functioning Autistic). You will not find the term ASD or Autism
Spectrum Disorder in my books. I
honestly despise the term. His condition
brings him some difficulties, but also brings special abilities. As a parent, my hopes for him are the same as
each of my other kids.
I tell
people that Momma always told me, “Remember that you are a totally unique
individual different from anyone else on earth – just like everyone else.” Okay, she didn’t really say that, but she
taught me that principal. I see it at
work in my kids. Felicia is mature
beyond her years and passionate about what she values; Hannah, a true, caring,
loving, and faithful friend who is afraid to meet new people; Nathan, brilliant
and logical but unable to relate to other people; and Grace, full of life and
mischief and heir to my sarcasm. They
are four completely unique people each of whom I love beyond what words can
express.
Like
each of my kids, every person I have ever met has had their unique qualities,
both good and bad. I hate to stuff
anyone in a box and label it “normal.”
We are each unique. We each have
our strengths and each harbor our mental abnormalities. I say, celebrate that uniqueness. Yes, we should each strive to improve
ourselves, but I don’t think that means striving to be normal.
This
concept is not new. The Apostle Paul
wrote of it in his first letter to the Corinthian church. In chapter twelve he writes of the body of
Christ having many different parts working together as a whole. “The eye can never say to the hand, ‘I don’t
need you.’ The head can’t say to the
feet, ‘I don’t need you.’” (verse 21, NLT)
Maybe
my son has ASU – Autism Spectrum Uniqueness.
I am confident that he, like many before, will find his unique spot in
this world. We will try to help him and
his siblings hone their strengths and bring those to a world that needs them. What would it be like if we each strengthened
our unique abilities and brought them together into an amazing diverse
community? Let’s try it!
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