Monday, April 1, 2019

What Do I Know?


     That’s a loaded question!  What do any of us know?  Sometimes not enough.  Especially when it comes to parenting.

     There was that one evening, a few years ago.  I was convinced that my son was being dishonest.  He absolutely refused to tell me what I thought was the truth.  I decided that, until he was honest, I would withhold his treasured stuffed animal.  This brilliant tactic inspired rage on his part.  Yeah, I know – not so brilliant.  Had I only known…

     What I didn’t know at that time was that my son’s High Functioning Autism (HFA) gave him an extreme view of truth and justice.  It turns out that he was being honest.  It was almost impossible for him to be dishonest.  When I was unfair and withheld his cherished stuffed animal, that was unthinkable to him. 

     It took a while to realize my ignorance and foolishness from that night.  But I did.  I have realized that I can trust him.  I am learning how he sees the world and trying to help him find his own unique success in life.  I have high hopes for him, as I have for all my kiddos.

     We have four kids.  Each is unique.  Four distinct personalities.  Four amazing people.  They remind me of the child psychologist who started his practice with four theories and no children.  Ten years later, he had four children and no theories.  Those four awesome humans constantly surprise me with their uniqueness and growth.

     So, what do I know about parenting?  After nineteen years, a lot, and never enough.  I am learning constantly, loving them consistently, and moving forward when I blow it. 

     To be honest, that’s a big part of what compelled me to write the Wil Clarey series.  I want to give people an insight into the life of a teen with HFA.  I don’t believe that Wil is a typical teen with HFA.  I don’t believe that there is a typical teen with HFA. 

     Wil is unique (not my son with another name).  He displays some of the characteristics of HFA, but not all.  He and those around him learn to deal with those traits in a constructive way, growing in his strengths and dealing with his weakness.  Kind of sounds like how we all deal with life.  Maybe Wil is actually each of us. 

     If you would like to know more about the Wil Clarey series, please contact me at Solanowriting @outlook.com.  I am willing to release a limited number of prerelease digital copies of Wil Clarey: A Kerryville Summer to those willing to review it.  Stay tuned here for publication news as I meet with agents and editors next week!  Your prayers and thoughts are appreciated during that time (April 12-15th)


Sunday, January 20, 2019

Spoiler Alert! Excerpt from Wil Clarey: School of Hard Knocks

     As promised, here’s the first chapter of Book 2 of the Wil Clarey Series - School of Hard Knocks.

     Be warned, it does contain a major spoiler from the end of the first book.  If you would like I digital copy of the first book first, I may be able to arrange that.  Email me at Solanowriting@outlook.com.

     While this chapter has been edited and revised, it may still be revised further before final publication. It turned out quite a bit longer than my typical chapters.  I hope you enjoy it!  Let me know what you think.



                                                     Chapter 1 – Locks’ Locks
     “C’mon Locks, work with me here.  Let us in!”  Mom was frantically punching the “unlock” button on the car’s remote.  Nothing was happening.
     “Use the key.”  I was thinking Duh!
     She tried the key on both sides.  It didn’t work.
     “Are you sure this is our car?”  I started walking in circles.
     She gave me “that” look.  “How many beat-up 18-year-old gold Tauruses do you see in this parking lot?  Besides, that’s our stuff in the back seat.”  She had a good point.
     My mind, which works in strange ways, immediately asked myself if it was supposed to be “Tauruses” or “Tauri.”  Instead I asked, “What about the trunk?  Maybe I can crawl through.”
     She tried the key in it.  Surprisingly, it popped open.  We pulled out enough stuff for me to climb in and reach the seat.
     “There’s no release.”  I turned and tried kicking the seat down.  As hard as I tried, it wouldn’t budge.  A voice made me jerk my head up, bashing it on the edge of the trunk.
     “Don’t break your car.”  The voice belonged to an old man in a Ford pickup who stopped behind us.  “I bet I can get it open.”
     I crawled out, rubbing my head.  I was down for any solution that didn’t involve more pain.

     I guess I should explain that we were at the Grand Canyon after our first day of traveling from California to our new home in Kerryville, Virginia.  Mom surprised me a month before when she told me she was buying a house there.  I had just spent the summer in the area and was loving it.  I was excited to be moving.
     The past month was spent frantically packing our stuff and loading it into a big trailer that a moving company would haul to our new home.  That very morning, we took off in “Locks” (short for Goldilocks), our old Ford Taurus.
     After eight hours on the road, we made it to Grand Canyon National Park.  It’s a big hole in the ground.  Okay, I gotta admit, it was pretty cool.  It’s sooo big!  We climbed up this old stone tower to watch the sunset.  It was crowded (which I hate) but the view was pretty amazing.  I got some pretty good shots with my new camera.
     That brings us back to trying to get into the car.

     Mom eyed the man with suspicion.  “How would you know how to do that?”
     “Same thing happened in my daughter’s car.”  The man dug a small screwdriver out of his glovebox and started taking the back cover off his truck’s remote.  “Let me see your remote.”
     Mom hesitantly handed it over.
     “Your ignition lock was probably replaced at one point.”  The man explained as he transferred the battery from his remote to ours.  “The trunk shouldn’t have opened but maybe they took the ignition lock and the trunk lid from the same junker.  That sort of thing happens all the time.”  He pressed the unlock button.  The car unlocked.  “Keep the battery, I’ve got a spare at home.”
     “How can I thank you?”
     “No thanks needed.” He smiled.
     I imagined him saying in a country accent, “Aw shucks, it was nothing.”
     “Have you had dinner yet?”  Mom surprised me.  She hardly ever talked to strangers, much less invited them to dinner.
     He sat there and looked at her.  Then at me.  Then the ground.  “I would be honored if you would join me and my wife for dinner.  But I won’t let you pay.” He said, that last bit in a serious voice.

     That’s how we found ourselves enjoying a late dinner with people we just met at a Denny’s in Flagstaff, Arizona.  We followed Lou and Myra, the elderly couple, all the way to the restaurant.  They took a while to get out of their pick up, so I ended up pacing by the door of the Denny’s waiting with mom.  “Do we have to have dinner with them?”
     “It won’t hurt you.  They’re nice people.”
     Lou walked up and shook mom’s hand.  He then reached for mine.  I know it must seem rude, but at that point in my life shaking a stranger’s hand was horrifying to me.  I looked down and turned away.
     “I’m sorry.  He has Asperger’s and shaking hands is not something he has gotten over yet.”  That’s mom – always coming to my “rescue.”  Embarrassing, but effective.
     “No problem.”  Lou smiled and opened the door.
     Throughout dinner, Myra sat quietly, not saying much, a lot like me.  Lou, on the other hand, could not stop talking.  We heard about the old cars he restored and how Flagstaff got its name, and what Native American Tribes were here, and which one he came from.  You get the idea.
     At one point he asked, “Are you praying people?”
Mom tilted her head.  “I guess you could say that I am.  Why do you ask?”
     “I was just curious.  Do you ever pray for Wil’s healing?”
     Oh man, what is she going to say?  I knew mom well enough to know that she didn’t like that kind of question.  I think she calls it a “trigger” question cause it can make her explode like a gun.
     To my surprise, she stayed calm.  “If Wil was injured or sick, I would pray for healing.  I don’t believe that having Asperger’s is something that he needs healing from?”
     “I’m not sure I understand.  Isn’t it a disability?  Wouldn’t life be easier for him without it?”
     “Life would probably be easier if I were stupid.”  She stopped for a moment.  “I’m sorry, that came out wrong.”
     “Don’t worry about it.  I’m just trying to understand.”  Lou glanced my way.
     I felt like disappearing under the table.  Part of me wanted to speak up like I did last summer on the Today Show.  But this was different, in person with a total stranger.  I think Mom handled it well.
     “People with Asperger’s think differently.  Their brains process information in unique ways.  That makes some things harder and other things easier.”
     “So, you think that the positives outweigh the negatives?”
     “I don’t think you can break it down to simple positives and negatives.  Every person is unique.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses.  I’ll never be a genius, but, that doesn’t make me any less valuable.”
     “I think I may understand.”  Lou actually scratched his head like it helped him think.  “Maybe the better prayer would be that Wil be able to become the best person that God intends him to be.”
     Mom smiled.  “That’s probably the best prayer for any of us.”
I couldn’t help but agree – at least in my head.  I wasn’t about to say anything.

     It was late when we got to the motel.  Mom went straight to bed while I emailed Hannah, my best friend in Kerryville.  You’ll hear more about her later.  She lives on the farm next door to my grandparents.  We’re kinda opposites but somehow we became good friends right away.

Hi Hannah,
We finally made it out of LA.  We left early and made it to the Grand Canyon in time for the sunset.  We went up on top of an old tower to see it.  The Grand Canyon is a really big hole in the ground, but it was pretty cool.  I attached a couple pictures.
     Mom had problems with the car.  I’ll fill you in when we get there.  We finally got to our motel around 10pm.  Mom is already snoring, and I’m really tired.  I might fill you in more tomorrow.
     Goodnight,
     Bestie Wil

Thursday, January 10, 2019

What's Missing?


This is what my writing nook has looked like most of the time lately.  Empty!  Life has been busy.  Since the first, I have written one chapter of Synchronized.  I also spent a good deal of time setting up the new web-site (which still needs a lot of work). 

Tonight, I was chastised by the thumbnail that tagged along with a message I sent that referenced this site.  It was the picture of my Christmas story in the trash.  Time to move forward.

I am going to continue to write Synchronized.  I am excited about that!  What may be of more interest to those of you on this site is the fact that I am going to start the rewrite process of Wil Clarey: School of Hard Knocks!  I think I have had enough time to distance myself from the first writing. 

Right now, most of it is in such bad shape (my daughter/editor says it's some of the worst writing she's seen from me) that I have my work cut out for me.  The story is there, but there are grammatical errors galore and significant inconsistencies (from changes in mid-story).  I am also wrestling with Wil's personality development. 

It is a heavy book in which Wil goes through some serious changes.  Probably my biggest struggle is keeping it fun to read while dealing with serious issues.  Your ideas and prayers are welcome!

I will post a few excerpts here.  Expect the first in a couple of weeks.  Thanks for your patience in the meantime!

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

New Year, New Website

I have officially launched a new website!  You can find it HERE

I will continue to post blogs about the Wil Clarey series here.  The new page will link to here and will have blogs about writing in general and updates for Synchronized.  Come check it out and send me suggestions for making it better!

Thanks

PS - if the link does not work, copy and paste solanowriting.com to your browser.

Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Not every story is worth publishing.

     I set out to write a Christmas story to share this year.  As I wrote, the story took on a life of its own.  When I was done, I reread it, made a couple of changes, reread again, and wasn’t sure if it was worth publishing.  I gave it to a couple of trusted readers.  They agreed.  I thought about revising it but there just isn’t enough time and I need to give that time to my family in this busy time of year.

     All this is to say, not everything that I or any author is worth publishing.  I could go ahead and make this story available, but I want to leave my readers with a great experience, not a mediocre one. For now this story is relegated to the recycle bin.

     Have you had experiences like this?  Have you started a project that just did not come out right?  I am not an advocate for quitting.  Quite the opposite.  But, I do know when it is time to move on.  I will get back to writing “Synchronized” right after Christmas.  I am excited with how that is progressing.  Perhaps, after the beginning of the year, I will share a chapter of that.  Stay tuned and don’t let the failures drag you down!

Saturday, November 24, 2018

What's Next?

     After practice writing first chapters from each of the five projects listed in my last post (and one new one that I may mention eventually), weighing the suggestions of friends online and in person, and debating and debating and debating, I have finally decided which project to work on next.


And that project is.... Synchronized

Synchronized will stretch my writing abilities as it is written in third person and is intended for adults.  In it we will explore issues of national security, trust in government and in each other as well as security through faith.  Feel free to send scene suggestions my way as Roger and Adam struggle to save America as we know it.

FYI - I plan on starting a new website after the first of the year.  It will link to this blog which will concentrate more on the Wil Clarey saga.  It will also bring more general writing news and links to tips.  I am also open to suggestions as to what to put there.  Thanks for your support!

Monday, November 19, 2018

Wil Clarey: School of Hard Knocks is complete! (in rough draft form). Make sure you let me know which project you would like to see me complete next.